If you’ve found your way to this page, it means you’re dealing with an entrenched pattern in your family and despite concerted use of the Hand in Hand Listening Tools things don’t seem to be shifting.

I’ve found Sleep Talk can act like a catalyst and help move you passed that stuck place in your parenting.

What is SleepTalk?


The SleepTalk process is a simple yet powerful way of talking to your child whilst they sleep in a way that allows their subconscious mind to take in more supportive belief structure. It’s a gentle way to enhance a child’s sense of feeling loved, lovabale and worthwhile.

How Does it Work?

Despite our best efforts, our children might have experienced things which have left deep hurts buried inside. Sometimes these feelings are so ingrained that they can have a very hard time feeling safe at all. HTis can make it hard for you to get traction with the Hand in Hand Listening Tools. If your child’s belief structure is based largely on fear or lack of confidence, a feeling of rejection or inadequacy, the decisions made by their conscious mind will reflect those beliefs.

It’s difficult for children to deal confidently with issues in their life if at a core level they feel anxious, fearful, unhappy or believe they are unloved or unlovable. If this sounds like your child, it’s not your fault! You can’t control everything that happens to your child or how events land in your child’s mind. Luckily you can help them heal.

SleepTalk works by targeting deep seated beliefs and opens up a child’s mind so they can take in all the connection and listening you are offering them through using the Hand in Hand Listening Tools. It offers a child new beliefs to help them feel loved, lovable and worthwhile.

What Do You Do?

  • You speak to your child, in a particular way, whilst they sleep every night for 2 - 3 minutes

  • You do this for a minimum of 3 months. Often that is enough but sometimes more is needed

There are three levels: Foundation, Level 2 and Level 3. The vast majority of children only need the Foundation stage. The Foundation level uses a general statement to ensure a child feels loved and lovable, is open to feeling happy and can accept change. Levels 2 and 3 give more specific suggestions to help deal with any lingering behaviour patterns.

  • After completely the SleepTalk process, you keep the good work in place by using the Foundation script with your child once a week.

How Do the Consultations Work?

Initial 1-hour Consultation - We take a base level assessment of where your child is now. I explain the SleepTalk process, give you the Foundation script and show you how to use it. We’ll discuss the changes you might see, how to record them and I’ll answer any questions you have.

Following day 10-minute check-in - I’ll check in with you by phone the next day to see how the first night went and answer your questions.

10 x Weekly 10-minute check-ins - We’ll connect for a weekly check-in. This gives you much needed accountability to keep using the SleepTalk week-in week-out.

This weekly check-in also gives you a chance to set yourself small manageable parenting goals and have me ask you how you went with them. This is such a gentle way of keeping you going with using all the Hand in Hand Listening Tools and any changes you want to make to help your family life go more smoothly.

1-hour Evaluation Consultation - When the SleepTalk process looks to have taking hold, usually at 12 weeks, we meet to take stock of the changes in your child’s behaviour. In the vast majority of cases this is all that’s needed. Sometimes a child will need a more specific SleepTalk script.

Here’s what Jane, mother of one girl, had to say about SleepTalk…

Jane Cameron Finlay, Melbourne, Australia

Jane Cameron Finlay, Melbourne, Australia

”Before we consulted with Rachel we were struggling with our daughter, especially around getting her to sleep, which was time consuming and draining. We’d already seen a Sleep Consultant and she’d suggested Hand in Hand Parenting. I first came across Rachel, when she responded to a question of mine that I’d posted on a Hand in Hand forum. Her response really struck me, as it was so caring and supportive, which led me to consult with her. After using all the Listening Tools for a couple of months and not seeing much change, Rachel suggested SleepTalk.

Since doing SleepTalk we’ve seen great improvements in getting our daughter to sleep and with her sleep in general, and it hasn’t been draining. My daughter’s changed a lot. She’s easier to get along with, her emotions are less extreme, and I’m less exhausted. Our relationship has improved a lot, I feel less drained and more connected.

I’d highly recommend doing SleepTalk with Rachel. The weekly check-ins were extremely supportive, not just in making me do the SleepTalk but for my parenting in general. She’s understanding, a great listener, and is very gentle.”